Hi i think i am going insane,I don't know how to help my little boy learn to feed himself,he will eat finger foods but i am not getting very far with helping him to get the hang of using a spoon.Eveyone i know with  a baby seems to have a perfect baby who feeds himself and sleeps through all night every night(which he doesn't) he needs to be cuddled to sleep and somtimes needs a bottle during  the  night i have tried the controlled crying when he was younger to no avail and i have 2 older kids so don't want too much noise at night,and he has to also be as same room as me due to lack of space  so basically i feel inadiqute and a bit of a faliure,Please has has anybody been through similar things that could offer some tips.Thankyou,Fleur.